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Why I am not an “autism parent”

I hear many, many parents of autistic children calling themselves “autism parents” and for multiple reasons this is wrong, and offensive, and I want it to stop. Who am I to comment? For context, all four of my children are neurodivergent. Probably, all four of them are autistic. One of

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Changing The name PDA

I had been meaning to write a full article regarding my thoughts on the name for my neurotype “Pathological Demand Avoidance” for a while and then another PDAer, and a friend of mine now, wrote one and so I chose not to. Sally Cat’s article is excellent, raising many different

So many professionals, “experts” other autistics and even people in the PDA community do not understand this distinction and it is important. There is a term “autistic demand avoidance” and many people believe PDA is just that. It is Not. So you can see how people think it is the

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The ADHD tax is high

It costs a lot of money being neurodivergent, especially in the ADHD type. That might sound ridiculous but it is so true. It can be financially debilitating and the worst part is, it looks so avoidable to others that there is a shit ton of shame attached to it. Why

Autism, Spectrum disorders, conditions, disability, Aspergers, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, difficulty, deficiency, neurodiversity, neurodivergence, Neurodivergent, neurotype,  neurology,  ADHD, ASD, ASC, OCD, SPD, SLD, PDA, pathological. Not that long ago I started interacting with a new community. It started with ADHD and moved on to looking more widely at “conditions and disorders”

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The demand cup

I have talked about emotional cups for a number of years now with parents. Some people talk about not being able to pour form an empty cup meaning that you need love and energy to give. I actually believe we all have enough love to give, but agree energy isn’t

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The many moods of PDA

In some official descriptions of PDA, a “Lability of mood” is described. Here is my interpretation of the many moods of PDA and yes, much like Jack Jack from the incredibles, we can switch between them pretty fast.

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When you tell people about Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), the first reaction is often, ​”so you avoid doing things you don’t want to do, and especially if you are told to do them”?. The answer then starts with “Well yes, but” and I always fear that no-one hears anything after