I hear many, many parents of autistic children calling themselves “autism parents” and for multiple reasons this is wrong, and offensive, and I want it to stop. Who am I to comment? For context, all four of my children are neurodivergent. Probably, all four of them are autistic. One of… Read More »Why I am not an “autism parent”
I had been meaning to write a full article regarding my thoughts on the name for my neurotype “Pathological Demand Avoidance” for a while and then another PDAer, and a friend of mine now, wrote one and so I chose not to. Sally Cat’s article is excellent, raising many different… Read More »Changing The name PDA
So many professionals, “experts” other autistics and even people in the PDA community do not understand this distinction and it is important. There is a term “autistic demand avoidance” and many people believe PDA is just that. It is Not. So you can see how people think it is the… Read More »Pathological avoidance is distinct from autistic avoidance
It costs a lot of money being neurodivergent, especially in the ADHD type. That might sound ridiculous but it is so true. It can be financially debilitating and the worst part is, it looks so avoidable to others that there is a shit ton of shame attached to it. Why… Read More »The ADHD tax is high
Autism, Spectrum disorders, conditions, disability, Aspergers, dyslexia, dyspraxia, dyscalculia, difficulty, deficiency, neurodiversity, neurodivergence, Neurodivergent, neurotype, neurology, ADHD, ASD, ASC, OCD, SPD, SLD, PDA, pathological. Not that long ago I started interacting with a new community. It started with ADHD and moved on to looking more widely at “conditions and disorders”… Read More »The language of neurodiversity – an analysis
I have talked about emotional cups for a number of years now with parents. Some people talk about not being able to pour form an empty cup meaning that you need love and energy to give. I actually believe we all have enough love to give, but agree energy isn’t… Read More »The demand cup
In some official descriptions of PDA, a “Lability of mood” is described. Here is my interpretation of the many moods of PDA and yes, much like Jack Jack from the incredibles, we can switch between them pretty fast.
When you tell people about Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), the first reaction is often, ”so you avoid doing things you don’t want to do, and especially if you are told to do them”?. The answer then starts with “Well yes, but” and I always fear that no-one hears anything after… Read More »What is demand avoidance, and when is it pathological?
Saturday 13th July – Winchester Guildhall 6:00-9:30pm – Harry thompson and Jodie Isitt Book now oh.. and me. Yay. here is the description: An evening of insight into the Pathological Demand Avoidance neurotype featuring Harry Thompson, Jodie Isitt and Emily Fackrell. Emily Wilding Fackrell of CalmFamily, hosts an evening with… Read More »Hosting Harry and Jodie….. wow!